What would you do in this situation?

You're 21 years old and your older brother is visiting town with his new girlfriend. Your parents are divorced, so you drop in at your mom's house where he's staying to meet his new girlfriend.





When you arrive, despite asking your mom several times earlier that afternoon not to disrespect your brother by being drunk, you find that your mom is plastered. She can hardly hold her head up and is talking loudly, flirting with the neighbor's husband in front of the neighbor, cursing, and flicking off people.





In embarrassment, you try to maintain conversation with the new girlfriend and act as normal as possible. You can read embarrassment all over your brother's face, who is doing his best to maintain eye contact with you and carry on a conversation despite your mother's (and her drunk friends') frequent lewd interruptions and attention-seeking behavior.





You go inside to use the bathroom. Your brother has also been drinking, so when you come back outside, your mother is strewn completely horizontally across your brother's lap, as he laughs and gives her the equivalent of a birthday spanking. Keep in mind that it is not her birthday, or anyone else's.





After seeing this birthday-style spanking from afar, what would you do? Sit down and continue talking to the girlfriend as if nothing happened? Make a comment? Leave?





Also, how common is stuff like this and how much can it do to someone's mental health?What would you do in this situation?
awwe.i honestly think that i would be so annoyed i'd leave.


I'm sure its not the most productive thing to do, but at that point, its really one of the only options--at that moment in time. if you do comment or try to help, they arent really going to remember it if they are that drunk.


but you cant just pretend nothing happenned.


maybe, i would also spare my brothers girlfriend and maybe ask her if she would like to leave and go get something to eat or a coffee. it isnt fair to have her sit through that if you arent there.





after, maybe the next day when they both are hung over and feeling sorry for themselves have at er.


they need to know that what they're doing is wrong, embarrasing, immature and needs to stop. now.


dont go easy on them. tough love, they obviouly need it. your mom is going to be the hardest, but with your brother, just drill it into him. its not right and that he deffinatly never does that in front of his new girlfriend.


as for mom, be mad at her. having someones child mad at them should ultimatly open their eyes to what they are doing is wrong.


tell her this needs to stop. if you have to raise your voise do so. (make sure when the comfrontation is happenning its just you and mom or broher, or the three of you) if they have a problem with drinking and you feel they are now addicted, more so mom, bring panflites for AAA or something. and when you are done drilling into her that it needs to stop, sit down with her and take her hand. tell her that you want to help her and that you think AAA is the only real option. give her the panflites, and leave. give her time to think.


this is what i would do, but i think its one of the only ways to help them.





hope this helps : )





pardon my spelling, spell check isnt working and im really lazy.. and not a good speller. lolWhat would you do in this situation?
Not normal at all. Would they act that way if they were sober?





Have you had any negative comments from the other occupants of the trailer park?
i hope this isnt really what happened to you but i would say everything up front. id tell the mom to straighten up and stop acting like a 13 year old boy who drank for the first time.. i would also apologize to the girlfriend and let her know that these stuff happen in the family..(the truth is always the best; dont worry about her reaction or reply) i would also let the brother know that hes old enough to control himself and not go along with what the ';mom'; is doing.. i would call the shots right there up front loud and clear.. be the B O S S in those situations. sorry if that happened to you.. i no how embarassing it can be.
Apologise to the girlfriend and ask her to leave the house with you, and say to her you're really sorry for what's been going on.





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Ok, if you ahve the chance to get back to talk to the girlfriend, just explain to her the real situtation, is she still dating your brother?