(Adult Question) Not telling your girlfriend / wife for the sake of not worrying her.?

Is it bad to leave things out of conversations for the sake of not making your girlfriend / wife have to worry about it? For example, ';one of your friend's friend wanted you to take a hit from a bong';, or ';how the girl at work flirts with you';... Things like that. Things that AREN'T, ';I cheated on you';, or ';I lost the ring';. What do you think?(Adult Question) Not telling your girlfriend / wife for the sake of not worrying her.?
its not bad..its life!! everybody keeps little secrets from each other... would you want to hear from your wife how the young man in the store flirted with her today or how she may have drank acouple of extra glasses of wine at the book club!! maybe in your relationship you guys tell each other everything but personnally Id be happy for my husband or partner to have a few little secrets from me(nothing major!!!) no doubt there are little things your wife doesn't tell you..why..because they are not important.. you love each other...now thats whats important!!(Adult Question) Not telling your girlfriend / wife for the sake of not worrying her.?
Yes. I believe that telling your girlfriend/wife the truth about anything you feel is important or detrimental to your relationship is not only vital to the stability of your relationship but also imperative. If you can't be honest with her (no matter how trivial you think it may be), then how can you expect her to be honest with you. How can you know for sure that she would want to tell you the same? Would you want her to tell you? My advice is to ensure a clean and open relationship not only for the welfare of your relationship but also for your sanity.
This is a question i think to myself all the time.


I think that sometimes it IS ok, maybe even better, to leave out some things of ur everyday life for the sake of not getting into an argument. As long as you do the right thing and it won't effect her life at all than it's perfectly fine. I know i never want my bf to tell me all that little sh*t because it just worrys me when i know there's really nothing to worry aboutt. I hope i helped !
the problem with not telling her is that she'll see that as an issue if it ever comes out. you know the fact that you didn't tell her, says more than if you had just told her about it. by not telling her, keeping it secret from her, you're giving it more meaning than it has.


every relationship is hard, and no one is perfect. the whole idea is that you're honest enough to tell each other about that. If you tell her honestly that girl at work is flirting with you, and you think it's stupid. then she probably won't care as much as you think. if she finds out on her own, sees this girl flirting with you somehow, she'll start thinking weird things, and wonder what else you're keeping secret from her.


I think that if you don't tell her, it could all end up blowing up in your face and become something that it never really was. you know?
Honesty is best but when you feel that something could hurt her of course you don't tell her.


Nobody tells their spouse everything those that do end up divorced.


You want a few things to yourself as long as you are being respectable and not doing something really bad but drugs are really bad you know.
Honesty and love is the only way.


Your misses should be your best friend, the only person who you can say anything to.


The only lie you should tell her is she looks beautiful even if she don't.


Put yourself in her shoes, How would you feel if she was keeping the same things from you?
Leaving things out is not being honest to yourself and your partner be true to thine self is a good way of looking at this situation. If you and your spouse cannot talk about anything or every thing their is a problem.
In my view, leaving out important information is akin to lying. If she would feel betrayed that you didn't tell her something, then it's a good idea to divulge the information.
I've learned that relationships are based on honesty regardless of how the person reacts to that honesty you need to still be honest.
Sure. That's fine.
It's your relationship...do what you think is right and in keeping with your character.
some things are best not said if you don't want your marriage to last
Dear one, The truth is always the best. however, there's the truth - and then there's ';the truth.';





If you ever watched a TV ad, you should know that how you present the ';truth'; has everything to do with how it is accepted. After all, fast-food is touted to be delicious and convenient - and kids love it. However, no one mentions that a maxed-out hamburger with all the special toppings packs enough triglycerides to cause a heart attack in 6 people. But which is the truth?





OK that said, it's how you present the truth that alleviates the worry in a relationship. For instance. If your friend's friend wanted you to take a bong-hit, (and you of course refused - as you should - you never know if that innocent-looking pot is laced with heroin) you can tell your gal that you don't really feel comfortable hanging out with So-n-So because of the incident. If you took the hit - and then subsequently flunked a mandatory wiz-test at work - which cost you your job - then you had better ';fess up'; completely.





Or if your coworker flirts with you at every opportunity, you need to clear that up with your supervisor - and then through HR if necessary. Then you can tell her why work is so stressful - that you had to be firm with a key colleague because she flirted with you, and you have to work things out with HR - it may cost her her job.





Of course, if you took her up on her flirt and subsequently cheated on her, you had better be prepared for some serious fireworks from the home-front - because responding to office flirts can not only cost you your relationship; but your job as well (many companies consider it inappropriate for coworkers to engage in affairs).





Once again, the truth is always the best.





One thing I ask you is, ';Why are you putting yourself in such precarious situations in the first place - hanging out with druggies and responding to the office vamps?';





If you feel that's your prerogative, I suggest you break off with your current partner/spouse and go solo from now on. Then you need answer only to yourself.